Jimmy “the screamer” Cantori, notorious hit-person of the Toronto mob, has gone to ground after a dramatic shoot-out last week when he was sensationally injured in a verbal battle with “heretic” Tommaso Caroli and “sex queen” Judith Levine, goodtime girl and slayer of child-protection racketeering. Cantori is thought to be nursing a badly-wounded ego.
The rumble broke out in a seedy speak-easy called Sexnet, where clients claim to “exchange information and ideas” about so-called “sex research”. Hostilities began after Cantori had bragged of an ambitious scheme to beef up the mob’s muscle by recruiting thugs on the street to press-gang men into “therapy”.
Seriously! James Cantor, a research psychologist whose hissy fits, dubious science, egotistic self-promotion and evangelical moral entrepreneurship in “support” of paedophiles have featured previously on Heretic TOC (see “Scientific egos as fragile as eggs” plus here, here and here for my engagement with him on his research), has now come up with a wheeze to use a vigilante outfit called Creep Catchers to “persuade” their victims – guys looking for sex who are tricked into a meeting they think will be with a minor – that they should seek treatment.
This came to light when James – which I will call him from now on because I’m a hopeless hater and he may well actually be sincere in his misguided aims – alerted Sexnet to a TV documentary about Creep Catchers by the appropriately named VICE News. James, who was interviewed on the programme, said he thought VICE did a great job, and I readily agree it was very slick and totally compelling.
J. Michael Bailey, moderator of Sexnet and himself a leading academic psychologist, also agreed, but then added that he thought James’s contribution had been “very, very good”. Usually, I find myself in agreement with Mike (it helps to agree with a moderator! 🙂 ), but not this time. So I said as much, although Judith Levine got in first with a fine one-liner, saying she thought the vigilante was the one who needed therapy – meaning a bully calling himself “Justin Payne”, a name possibly intended to evoke the idea of meting out pain in the name of justice. He was the guy actually confronting his entrapped victims, taunting and shaming them while his partner in a two-man team captured the confrontations on video.
My response was to say that:
…yes, James is very, very good at fulfilling a culturally assigned role, which is why the media lap him up. Where paedophilia is concerned, he is the velvet glove masking the iron fist. He makes it possible for educated, civilised liberals to believe that essentially coercive therapies are necessary.
That alone would have been a red rag to a bull on Sexnet, where a substantial chunk of the membership are paid to develop and implement such therapies: most of them are well-meaning but their careers are built on oppression, including “therapy” within “civil confinement” prisons in the US from which there is virtually no prospect of release, despite treatment courses designed to make offenders safe for life outside.
What would have enraged James even more, though, was my response, and Judith Levine’s, to news he gave about a further development. He posted to say he was scheduled to be on a panel discussion with Justin Payne in February and was “hoping to use the opportunity to call on Creep Catchers to funnel victims into therapy instead of harassment”.
I replied saying “Not sure how encouraging thugs to bully and press-gang people into treatment would play with a medical ethics board. If something else is intended, what would it be? Is complicity with the leopards expected to change their spots?”
Judith posted swiftly in support:
…does Cantor really want to wave a magic wand & combine entrapment with enticements to therapy? How about just getting rid of mandatory reporting?
James is actually on record as being against mandatory reporting laws, which require doctors and other professionals to report to the authorities anyone coming to them for advice or therapy if they disclose any offence. His objection is that such laws deter paedophiles from seeking help – a very strong point because some people are genuinely desperate or even out of control and really do need it. Nevertheless, Judith was right to propose focusing on the reporting issue rather than going down the maverick route of colluding with thugs. As I said in a follow-up, the police wouldn’t touch Creep Catchers with a bargepole and neither should he – though the forces of law and order would do well to challenge the vigilantes over their harassment and intimidating behaviour.
Back to the VICE documentary itself. In one of James’s televised interview points he claimed, as he has done elsewhere, that paedophilia is characterised by crossed wiring in the brain. He said that instead of having parental or avuncular feelings towards children, paedophiles identify them as sex objects.
Where, I asked, was this “instead of” coming from? Why would it be one or the other rather than both? I pointed out that at least 20-25% of “normal” men show significant sexual arousal to children in lab-based psychological tests. Most of these guys would presumably be family men, with nothing to suggest they are anything other than loving parents in the socially approved sense of loving. If they can be kind, caring, and affectionate, with an element of erotic attraction in the mix, why would this double response not also apply to preferential paedophiles?
Unfortunately, Mike Bailey seemed blinded by the hostile tone of my post, saying he had been “taken aback” by my attack on James Cantor, whom he described as a humane person who just wanted to stop paedophiles’ lives being ruined.
Right! Sure! As someone whose experience of James’s humane concern has been experienced through nothing but his icy refusal to acknowledge anything I have ever said on Sexnet, through to his cold, dismissive references to “O’Carroll’s” lack of professional standing and expertise, to screaming fits of outright abuse and demands that I be kicked off the forum, I begged to differ. After seven years of this from him since my forum membership started in 2010, I had concluded that nothing would make him happier than to see this particular paedophile’s life ruined; or, better still, terminated! I suspect I must have been murdered in his dreams a number of times and I’d rather not dwell on the methods he might have come up with.
And not just me: any other Kind person on the forum who dared to utter so much as a squeak of modest dissent against his self-enforced towering authority would face a blast of withering scorn. He must have verbally murdered half a dozen of us over the years, leaving me as the last man standing. All the others have either wisely kept a low profile (two or three continue to do useful work through private contacts with key forum members) or else retaliated by giving James a defiant blast of their own, followed by their swift demotion to non-posting status for failing to know their station.
I have huge respect for Mike and I could see no mileage in antagonising him by pursuing a vendetta on the forum against a colleague he has known for decades without, it seems, being troubled by his obvious volatility. Far better to row back a bit, then try a careful re-casting of my argument, this time without ruffling feathers. So, I apologised for my hostile tone but continued to maintain my original scientific point about “normal” men’s sexual response to children in lab tests. The information I had given was not only correct, which Mike admitted, but also relevant, which he had denied. This time, after my further explanation, he conceded I had a point, albeit he felt James did not really believe paedophiles never feel parental-type love for children. My reaction: no, maybe not, but that is effectively what he said in public and it is pure poison because it suggests that Kind people are wired up to be unkind – selfishly interested only in their sexual expression and callously indifferent to children’s feelings and best interests.
I carefully spelled out that the “crossed wires” analogy presents paedophilic mental experience as a polar opposite of the norm, rather than part of a continuum in which most paedophiles have a great deal in common with others. Thus “the paedophile” is presented in a dehumanising way as a freakishly different being. This, I said, seems to me to be on a par with the equally false and damaging claim (now largely corrected in the literature) that paedophilic “offenders” lack empathy.
It was hard to gauge what other sexnetters were thinking at this point. Posts by established academics on less controversial topics, such as a thread today on “copulatory vocalisation”, tend to be followed up quickly with colleagues chipping in further information, often with friendly banter and jokes thrown in. My posts used to be met with brusque dismissal or patronising little lectures on where I was going wrong – until both types of response were met with clear evidence that I know my way around the literature and can back up my arguments with facts. After that they tended to shut up, except for James as the ranting voice of determined hostility on one side and a few brave souls on the other who have broken ranks occasionally to offer respectful dialogue on friendly first-name terms, or even support.
Mike has always been one of these. And now he came to the rescue again. Pleased by my change of tone, he turned his mind to my argument, and this time readily agreed I had a point. Most of the others maintained what I take to be a grudging, resentful silence. Someone started a purely theoretical discussion with Mike as to whether paedophilia is or is not taxonomically distinct; two or three others called for a halt to the personal spat. James got a bit of support for his efforts to “help” paedophiles, notably from Dan Watter, president of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research; but these were very brief contributions that neither attacked me nor addressed my arguments. And that was about it. Except for Judith Levine.
She had said vigilantes such as Creep Catchers tried “to scare the living bejesus” out of people and their activities could not be condoned. James disagreed, saying “Whether we here like it or not, their actions have great public support and attention.” Opposing them directly would not work: “This method, history has shown time and again, will only fuel the fire and add to the anti-intellectual fervor of the day.” Judith came back strongly. She wrote:
…as a political tactic, every movement needs radicals to stand not only for what we might get now but what we really want & really believe in. Current “sex offender” policies and practices are not only ineffective and counterproductive…. They are wrong. Legal hyper-punishment is unjust, and vigilante violence is immoral. No one should condone them, even obliquely.
This prompted Richard Green to enter the fray in support of Judith’s record, citing not only her well-known book Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children From Sex, discussed in comments here last time, but also her service as a Director of the National Center for Truth and Justice, which campaigns against what he called “problematic sex laws” and supports those falsely accused of child sex abuse.
Now into his eighties, Richard has a long and distinguished record of radicalism of his own as a leading academic psychiatrist who successfully campaigned against homosexuality being treated as a mental illness, and who made a bold bid to do likewise for paedophilia in a far less sympathetic political climate. As president of the International Academy of Sex Research he even stuck his neck out by inviting me as his guest speaker at the academy’s annual conference in 2000 – which is where I first met Mike Bailey.
Amazingly, by the time of Richard’s intervention on the Creep Catchers thread, it looked as though peace was breaking out. James posted in a remarkably emollient tone, even calling me Tom, which he has never done before. Wonders never cease! Alas, it didn’t last long. Like so many tactical ceasefires in so many conflicts, it would only take a single disaffected sniper to wreck the prospects of peace.
This time it was Nick Devin, Virtuous Pedophiles founder, who weighed in with a highly personal attack on me, saying I had always been mean to him despite his best efforts to hold out the hand of friendship. He had a point. I do not possess an effigy of Nick, but if I did it would be stuck so full of pins it would look like a hedgehog. Have I been unreasonable towards him? Maybe. But it’s hard to see clearly through a miasma of visceral loathing and contempt. Did I say I am not a good hater? Perhaps I should think again. Or maybe not. My view of Nick is not set in concrete, whereas a good hater’s would be.
Be that as it may, Nick’s “contribution” seemed to set James off again. Certainly, I cannot otherwise explain why he unexpectedly came back into the fray, like one of those horror-film monsters you think has just been despatched but suddenly stirs…
I won’t dignify what he said by repeating any of it. It was all utter crap, which I rebutted immediately, calmly and in detail, in a 2000-word volley that included reference to the opinions of sexnetters who have commended my contribution to the forum, including this, from transsexuality expert Anne Lawrence: “If Sexnet gave an award for clear, eloquent, well reasoned analysis, Tom O’Carroll would get my vote.”
The last word went to Mike Bailey:
There is no thought to excluding Tom O’Carroll from SEXNET. He knows a lot about some important topics, and SEXNET would be poorer intellectually without his presence.
That said, both Tom and his critics sometimes–too often–can’t keep themselves from digging/insulting each other. This is to their own detriment. The only people that appeals to is themselves (for retributive purposes) and the people who already agree with them. It is mostly annoying to others, and keeps others from reading their reasoning carefully. Which is a shame, because all are very thoughtful and taking important, mostly reasonable, positions.
I would be a fool to argue against any part of this, which is why, despite one or two ceasefire-breaking little salvos of my own, here, I do not rule out reconciliation with both Nick and James. But it has to be on a basis of intellectual and personal respect. Mutual, of course. They have both been invited to comment and will be treated courteously by me if they do so and, I hope, by other heretics.
[…] And now, having mentioned LSM, it would be reprehensible not to add that he has a fabulous new blog post fresh out this very day, called “Dr Cantor & the Case of the Extrapolated Equivalence”, a title sure to whet the appetite of the many heretics who have followed the career of Jimmy the Screamer. […]
October 2012, gullible Grauniadistas?
https://www.theguardian.com/media/2012/oct/04/jimmy-savile-television
October 2016, Mass Deception seXtwerp MWTwat’s ‘Exposure’ – exposed!
http://mrvoxpopper.blogspot.be/2016/10/jimmy-savile-study-in-mendacity.html
Infantilized tabloid twats still can’t get over their nappy-soiled playpen rail, while railing about the wee hurdle – so called ‘Consent’.
For centuries Under 13s as young as 8 have had the mental, moral, emotional ability to CONSENT (or not) to commit crimes AND be caged for causing pain to ADULT VICTIMS!
So it’s OBVIOUS even to a blind beat-Bobby that they have the SAME ability to CONSENT (or not) to mere seXual PLEASURE with adults creating NO/NIL/SQUAT/ZERO – so called ‘VICTIMS’
Q.E.D.
A continuation of my Skeptiko posting saga:
1) I posted a long reply to Michael Larkin’s furious dismissal of my position:
http://www.skeptiko-forum.com/threads/mind-boggled-satanist-us-army-mind-control-et-al.3493/page-3#post-107083
Your thoughts?
2) As for children and informed consent: arguing for children’s consent being informed is a rhetorical impossibility outside the radical child liberationist / pro-paedosexuality circle. One have to start the discussion from the premises that have at least some possibility to be accepted – or, at least, looked at and analysed – by other paticipants of the debate. So, speaking with general audience, one have to limit the defence of children’s consent to the simple one.
3) Two other participants said they’ll read and answer later – which is possible, since it took weeks for me to write my post… Maybe they will reply in future.
I also had a private exchange with another forum member, who said that he supports consensual child-adult sex but, right now, won’t reply. He may possibly do it later and support my position, when he has enough free time.
>one have to limit the defence of children’s consent to the simple one.
Well, this is certainly easier and more applicable to younger children. For older ones in the UK there is “Gillick competence”. See previous H-TOC posts:
https://tomocarroll.wordpress.com/2013/09/10/the-heinous-crime-of-truth-telling/
https://tomocarroll.wordpress.com/2013/10/22/whats-healthy-about-the-selfie/
https://tomocarroll.wordpress.com/2014/04/12/an-open-letter-to-frank-furedi/
https://tomocarroll.wordpress.com/2015/02/23/whither-the-punitive-state-whither-go-we/
PS to Explorer: I have just read your linked response to Michael Larkin: very good! Excellent info on childhood freedom in post-Soviet Russia.
Meanwhile, another forum member, Hurmanetar, replied – at last! I was waiting for his response:
http://www.skeptiko-forum.com/threads/mind-boggled-satanist-us-army-mind-control-et-al.3493/page-3#post-107086
Answering him properly will take some days. Despite his disagreement, I should note his absence of hostility and sympathy with providing more freedom to adolescents (even if, sadly, not children).
Indeed of internet?
FOUND, SeXy ’72 “The Offence”!
A repressed pedo COP, quel surprize?
1990s lengthily TV-interviewed about his much celebrated seXtensive career, ex-bodybuilder/footballer/James Bond BIG Tough Scot Connery nervously nonced over this, er, ‘minor’ brave Brit classic, with a VERY reluctant, “Ah, yes. ‘The Offence’…” Nowt more proffered nor offered.
And yet, when the now largely forgotten Brit scribe John Hopkins in 1968 wrote his first play, “This Story of Yours” which had poor reviews when staged at the Royal Court Theatre one person who was impressed was Sean Connery who chose it as a personal film project under the working title ‘Something Like the Truth’. The by-then wealthy Connery not only produced the film under a deal with United Artists when he returned to his Bond role, but also acted in the film version, directed by the revered Sidney Lumet released in 1972 as ‘The Offence’.
The film’s integral flashbacks portray suspected sex-offender Baxter — whose guilt or innocence is left ambiguous — taunting Det Sgt Johnson during the interrogation, insinuating that Johnson secretly wants to commit the sort of sex crimes he investigates. Johnson at first flies into a rage and strikes Baxter, but he eventually admits that he does indeed harbour obsessive fantasies of murder and rape. He then tearfully begs Baxter to help him. When Baxter recoils from him in disgust, Johnson snaps and kills him.
http://www.indiewire.com/2012/04/the-films-of-sidney-lumet-a-retrospective-252714/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f2LwYOB2kd4&spfreload=5
And lets not forget old Clint…Old enough for kisses, ‘The beguiled’, Great film, Lucky man!
https://uk.video.search.yahoo.com/search/video?fr=yfp-t-UK312-s&p=the+beguiled+film+young+girl#id=3&vid=36790f772dd66214befb2c30c5c6c37a&action=click
Yes, indeed, from 1971!
I see there is to be a 2017 remake of The Beguiled, coming up this summer. I somehow doubt that the line “Old enough for kisses” (and the action with a 13-year-old) will be repeated.
Indeed of internet?
CNN Apologizes And Retracts Statement That Julian Assange Is A Pedophile After Threat Of Lawsuit.
https://jonathanturley.org/2017/01/06/cnn-apologizes-and-retracts-statement-that-julian-assange-is-a-pedophile-after-threat-of-lawsuit/
Radio 5 LIVE, Presented by Stephen Nolan interviewed Harriet Harman, and the subject of her past membership with the NCCL came up; She referred to P.I.E as supporting ‘predators’, Skip to 1:53:50
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b08bznfj
I see Harman claims in this interview that she only joined NCCL after PIE was kicked out. I never met her, but my recollection is that she and Patricia Hewitt, who was later a cabinet minister in Blair’s government, were both with NCCL when I was on the gay rights sub-committee there.
Stephen Nolan, incidentally, invited me to be interviewed on a TV programme a couple of years ago. The plans reached a fairly advanced stage, with a lot of emails exchanged between me and the producer. But then — a familiar story — the BBC top brass told Nolan he could not have me on the show.
She referred to P.I.E as supporting ‘predators’
Factually impossible: They had not yet been invented, back then.
Indeed of interest.
SHOCK! Ex-Loli, unTrue Brit Tory hack tells TRUTHS in lands of lies.
Hysteric kids-on-kids, quel surprize.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/family/when-did-a-game-of-doctors-and-nurses-become-a-sex-crime/
https://search.yahoo.com/yhs/search?hspart=iba&hsimp=yhs-1&type=xdds_5338_CRW_BE&p=Allison+Pearson
For the latest children-as-sex-offenders figures, see today’s Guardian:
https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2017/feb/03/claims-child-sexual-offences-soar-england-and-wales-police-barnardos
Indeed of interest c.5 yrs back (in another dark age?)
The Indie, Sat 21 April 2012, Robert Chalmers interviews Jonathan king
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“Just to be clear, what do you think should happen to predatory paedophiles of the kind you were painted as being? Men who prey on 14-year-old kids, as you were portrayed as having done? You must have met some of these people in prison.” “Yes. Awful people. I think they should be locked up. Cured, if you can cure them. They ought to be locked up for ever, or certainly until they can’t offend again.”
PLUS, veteran Pop publicist and insider Keith Altham, “As Jonathan’s career progressed,” Keith Altham told me, “he became more outrageous and over-the-top. Was he ever guilty of breaking the law with a minor, however complicit they were? I would say, almost certainly. Jonathan was careless and probably guilty of ‘undermining the morals of minors’, but he was not a rapist or a kidnapper. I suspect he was singled out because some media did not care for his reckless gay behaviour. Had he been heterosexual he might have got away with it; many did. In my opinion he was probably more sinned against than sinning, and the press coverage of the case ruined his career.”
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/profiles/jonathan-king-the-only-apology-i-have-is-to-say-that-i-was-good-at-seduction-7658249.html
Eivind Berge has won a victory in his battle against the Norwegian government to uphold and protect free speech. Congratulations Eivind! eivindberge.blogspot.co.uk/2017/01/the-saga-continues-appeal-to-supreme.html
Indeed of puerile interest to sewer SUN-mugs.
Grim Brit Femme teacher, 35, posed as 14y.Overgrown Loli to lie about True Brit Male NON-ped (thus far?)
SUN-mugs’ defamer disclaimer, “We pay for your stories! Do you have a story for The Sun Online news team? Email us at tips@the-sun.co.uk or call 0207 782 4368 ”
Detective Constable Ben ‘LIAR’ Land, from the Met’s Sexual Offences Exploitation and Child Abuse Command, added: “Cases of false claims like this are RARE, but do enormous damage to individuals.
“This was a calculated attempt to deceive professionals who are committed to safeguarding the most vulnerable children into believing that this hardworking, dedicated and caring colleague in her school was responsible for abuse against one of their pupils.
“Fortunately Boll’s efforts to mask her true identity were unsuccessful and we have received a positive outcome with the conviction and restoration of the professional reputation of the victim.”
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/2751616/teacher-35-impersonated-vulnerable-pupil-on-childline-to-falsely-accuse-innocent-colleague-she-didnt-like-of-being-a-paedo/
https://jonathanturley.org/2017/02/02/london-teacher-posed-as-sexually-abused-girl-to-falsely-accuse-colleague-of-pedophilia/
Indeed of interest.
19Hateys Luvly Lil Loli MiniPopette Jonna Fisher, 5!!!!!
http://joannafisher.co.uk/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joanna_Fisher
Though the series was a success for Channel 4 (gaining 2,000,000 viewers), little thought was given to the ethics of child performers singing songs originally written for older artists and dressing and dancing in a provocative style (often influenced by the original performance). Whilst embraced by children who loved the idea of ordinary children singing and dancing (as they did) along with their favourite songs, the show sat uneasily with some adults; this was capped by a performance from five-year-old Joanna Fisher, who covered the Sheena Easton song “9 to 5” (known as “Morning Train” in the U.S.) in nightclothes and included the lyrics “night time is the right time, we make love”.
In response, the programme began attracting criticism from commentators in the British media who suggested that portraying children in this manner (singing songs which often contained a subtext of adult content, often in unsuitable costumes and heavy make-up) was somewhat sinister (one caller on Channel 4’s Right to Reply programme fumed, “Minipops should be called MiniWhores. Are you people out of your mind?”).[2] Also, the Daily Mail charged Minipops with partial responsibility for “the slaying of childhood”. The following is an excerpt from The Observer article of 27 February 1983:
“Is it merely priggish to feel queasy at the sight of primary school minxes with rouged cheeks, eye make-up and full-gloss lipstick belting out songs like torch singers and waggling those places where they will eventually have places? The final act of last week’s show featured a chubby blonde totlette, thigh-high to a paedophile, in a ra-ra skirt and high heels; her black knickers were extensively flashed as she bounced around singing the words ‘See that guy all dressed in green/He’s not a man, he’s a loving machine.’ Kiddie porn, a shop-window full of junior jailbait? And does the show thrust premature sexual awareness onto its wide-eyed performers?”
The child cast and the show’s creators were somewhat shocked at the response and their misinterpretation, despite the ratings success. When Cecil Korer was replaced by Mike Bolland as head of entertainment for Channel 4, he cancelled plans for a second series.
Quite typical reaction to such a show, or any indication of younger girls displaying sexual awareness or expression to any degree. The combination of high ratings and high criticisms such shows receive displays the love/hate relationships we have with this sort of youth expression. On the one hand, audiences are drawn to it by the fascination, transgression, and allure factors; on the other hand, moralists who enjoy being offended and finger-pointing more than the admiration of such expression have a field day with this sort of thing. They insist that the gerontocentric control apparatus in society define what “childhood” is, and they’re quick to slap down any form of expression that challenges an aspect of the status quo that insures this adult control of the conception of childhood.
Consider these basic factors that combine to explain the cliched’ critiques:
1) These pundits know quite well that even younger children have a degree of sexual awareness. When they say such shows threaten to incite a “premature sexual awareness,” what they really mean is that such shows incite socially unacceptable sexual expression, and they fear that it may become normalized, thus threatening the “proper place” of children in the political and cultural hierarchy.
2) These moralism-mongers are also aware that sexual expression and freedom = agency. As noted above, this threatens the hegemony that our society insists belongs to adults alone, to whatever extent the average adult is allowed to have it.
3) The conception of the Innocent Child is a sacrosanct paradigm in Western society, and these transgressions against the concept trigger the “savior” instinct in Westerners, who enjoy judging others as well as being given an opportunity to take the role of Moral Savior. The archetype of the Exploited Child is the modern day equivalent of the now moribund Damsel of Distress, and the Moral Savior the equivalent of the Knight in Shining Armor. These tired old emotionally-derived archetypes have not faded so much as changed form. The fair maiden being threatened by the archetypal dragon has now been replaced with the innocent little girl threatened by an archetypal bogeyman, with sexual expression and choice taking the place of the dragon’s fangs and fiery breath.
4) People also love to moralize because it makes them feel better about their own failings and insecurities to deride and judge others (“well, I may be this, but at least I’m not what you are!”). “Othering” gratifies the ego of these moralists.
The end result: The producers of these shows appease the bullying pontificating of the moralists and saviors of innocence by declaring the offending/transgressive show will not see a second season, and then months later they quietly create a new show of a similar nature to enjoy all the ratings they know it will acquire before they have to cancel it once the expected moralizing attacks come about. This has gone on so long it’s a full-blown cultural trope, and there is no way I would ever believe the executives behind these shows are caught by surprise when it occurs. They know it’s going to happen, and they plan accordingly.
http://metro.co.uk/2017/02/01/rapist-jailed-for-killing-man-who-confronted-him-for-attacking-girl-14-6421169/
Disgusting beings that think that having sex with teenage girls is rape.. now there is one less of that vigilante rabble. Hahaha
The strange, Strange story of gay fascists
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-strange-strange-story_b_136697.html
Indeed of interest.
True Brit Femme, Saint Hewson of Q.C.
http://www.spiked-online.com/newsite/article/this-is-how-to-inquire-into-child-abuse/19403#.WJEPy9IrLMx
You cant really say anything worthwhile or necessary in this world, without pissing people off…not when it comes to social issues…And if everybody is mellow with it, then it probably wasn’t all that in need of saying.
Sexnet sounds like quite the adventure.
I don’t even know that I’d want to join, no matter how interesting it sounds…I’d likely just get lost in the banter, and overshadowed…not really wanting to deal with long [potentially heated] back and forth communication…Ten years ago, I would have been different.
There is a certain classism, that’s always bothered me…and you’re touching on that issue here, Tom.
We who are the degreeless…the officially untrained…the laymen…are to simply be silent, and let “the professionals” do all the talking…all the debating…all the negotiating…all the dictating…and all the rule making…
It’s often come off to me, as one of the single most offensive elements of the establishment.
…When they are the only ones to think and speak…where does that leave the rest of us?…Is our existence so meaningless and discountable?
We are the ones living this existence…where as “the experts” are transients wandering through our world…trying to place their own labels and explanations onto it…which are often painfully horrible in cognition and representation.
They “champion” something quite different from what we do…which is why we butt heads so much, with them…But, of course, we all know this.
People like James [who I’ve partially defended in the past…whether he appreciates it or not, I have no idea] are fighting within the system, for limited things the system allows…
…We are fighting the system, and exposing the invalidity within the system.
>…When they are the only ones to think and speak…where does that leave the rest of us?…Is our existence so meaningless and discountable?
It’s a huge problem, isn’t it? In ordinary society it would be considered extremely rude to exclude anyone from the conversation in this way. It reminds me of the classic old put-down (usually delivered as humorous self-parody): “Who asked you to butt in? We’re talking about you, not to you!”
Or the horrific idea of giving peasants the vote; It has parallels with the Brexit vote. “how could’ve we given a vote to ordinary people over an issue so divisive”….And don’t get me started over the non-seqiturs over Brexit and racism! Have I stirred a hornets nest? Though, I doubt all MAPs would be remainers?
It really is, yes.
While so many are trying to make this a discussion all about biology, and searching out “what is wrong with us”…The point that this is primarily a social issue, goes over most people’s heads.
Science…biology…”why are humans different?”…These are not irrelevant explorations…But what good do they do here, when so many act incapable of getting along with others different from themselves in a nonviolent, nonaggressive way?
These things always come back to social conduct…And the problem is, they’re using the pursuit of science, biology and “why are humans different”, in an aggressive way against MAPs.
What you said is so important eqfoundation: “We are the ones living this existence…where as “the experts” are transients wandering through our world…”
Lukas
Regarding my earlier post,
the onion link should work, but requires tor. Alternatively, use
https://www.boychat.org/messages/1490448.htm
>” In one of James’s televised interview points he claimed, as he has done elsewhere, that paedophilia is characterised by crossed wiring in the brain. He said that instead of having parental or avuncular feelings towards children, paedophiles identify them as sex objects.”
When I first heard Cantor’s explanation of this it was one of those epiphanal moments. “Yes”, I thought, “he’s hit the nail right on the… well… point!”.
In other words, although I felt he’d identified an important relationship between parental and sexual feelings toward children, he “sorta got it back-to-front”.
The “normal” situation is not that adults have protective, avuncular, nurturing attitudes towards children – whereas MAP’s (Kind folk) have “crossed wiring in the brain” – it’s that; all responses to attractiveness (however that is defined) is intrinsically sexual. It’s a mixture of evolution, upbringing and social engineering that predicates a desire in the brains of the “general populace” to seek out “adult” (and at one time: “opposite sexed”) sexual partners.
When you think about it, mammals are the only group of animals, in fact of any living thing, that give birth to live young (with a few exceptions). Mammals are considered in nature to be the most advanced group, evolutionarily speaking. There are some non-mammals that protect and nurture their offspring, but I have never heard an argument that proposes (whether mammals or not) this is for any other reason than to prevent them from being eaten! Even if the parent (particularly the mother) warns off an older member of his/her social group, it is still an autonomic response without the benefit of being able to comprehend the risk that member’s intentions might pose.
Further, when the first life appeared (approximately 3.8 billion years ago) or even when the first multi-celled creatures appeared (a mere 360 million years or so ago) I doubt that the nurturing of offspring was at the top of their to-do list.
The point is, that if nurturing is related to the more advanced species on Earth, then it must surely be as a result of evolution (biological, social or both). Thus, it must be regarded as an evolutionary development. My belief is that this development is responsible for redirecting the normal sexual interest that arises (in response to identifying someone as attractive) suppressing those feelings, and invoking an alternative (“not normal”) response. Almost assuredly without the person ever being cognitively aware of this process.
So I guess what I’m suggesting is that; it’s normal to be sexually attracted to children, and that those who are not are deluding themselves.
Of course, many here may not like this idea. If there were found to be any substance to it, it may open up claims that “paedophilia erotica”, despite affirming the “not a choice” argument, can (as some would prefer to see it) be considered a medical condition – “eugenics” comes to mind. So, not wanting that, feel free to put this post down as the incoherent ramblings of a madman.
And here’s a little something that you can pass on to JC (James Cantor – in case of any confusion) next time you “debate” with him.
https://youtu.be/hrnPDnTrgCI
Because you talk about the attraction issue, I’m going to put here something that I wrote recently about this same subject on Steve Diamond’s blog, because it’s frankly cool (and if you do not know.. English is not my native language!):
“”””””Virpeds forget something important… that the attraction to children is natural and common, and whether you consider something positive or negative, is different, just like desire eating meat is natural and common, but I hate it, that’s why I’m vegetarian. The same with “pedophilia”, human people are attracted to sex that we like independent of age, I am totally heterosexual and that is why I can feel attracted by females whether they are prepubertal girls, teenagers or adults…
I do not know what kind of idiot can think that you can only feel attracted from age X to above, legs of a 10 year old girl, they are still female legs, however much they are undeveloped, and that is why I like to look at them although I’m not interested in “touching sexually” a 10-year-old girl, I also do not have any emotional attraction to adult women, however I may feel attracted to such a particular woman and desire her body, but that is normal, children, however children it may be, is a person of the sex in which are an possible sexual arouse, and therefore his body is attractive, whether something negative or positive this fact, that is different, that is what these rabid idiots do not understand and do not want to understand.
I after dealing with small girls I realized that I can not get along with children, because my way of being, so I have left passively at minimun my natural and innate attraction to children (which I did not choose, but is common to most humans, same as my unwanted attraction to adults) and I have continued with my life, but Virpeds, no, they can not stand with their natural attraction, and they have obsessed with children in an unhealthy way (this happens with non-Virpeds too), now being social addicts they have adapted the narrative and the creed of society, that its attraction is a mistake.””””””””
And here more about VP and the topic sexuality with children:
“”””””””””……. As for sexuality with children (and I say sexuality with children, not sex with “minors”) I almost have never had any sexual attraction when I was prepubescent, nor have I ever seen (personally, not stories) that a child had sex with a adult (or another age) in a positive way, neither I nor any of my interactions with children were the least sexual, so I can not support this, as I do not support many other things although people affirm that they are positive, besides my personal security, because nobody here gives the face to the bare, let’s face it, but that does not make me be hostile and aggressive against those who support it and affirm firmly that if they can be positive like feinmann does, instead a Virped is your sworn enemy, in fact I have spoken with him And many others and I do not recommend it (although Enderphile was not so aggressive), they are simply servants of the system and its dogmas, I am not, I am as dissident and enemy as all of you, even if I am not a “pro-contact”, that is the difference.”””””””””
Order, Did you not state once that you find the idea of sex with adult women repulsive?
“10 year old girl, they are still female legs, however much they are undeveloped”
I find that the legs of girls around ten are indeed as nice as the hottest supermodel; There is only a size difference after all. Let’s face it, Most ten year old’s have no need to shave their legs, and have no need to spend time rubbing various creams into their skin to maintain soft and silky legs (I would assume LOL)!
Somebody mentioned paedophilia as a defunct term because in the future it will be recognised as a continuum; I think (and hope) that will be true. Even by being seen as a continuum, It would have to be accepted as an orientation, and at the moment, threatening to murder paedophiles is not a ‘hate crime’,So a recognition like that would unleash ass sorts of ‘Scylla & Charybdis’
>My belief is that this [evolutionary] development is responsible for redirecting the normal sexual interest that arises (in response to identifying someone as attractive) suppressing those feelings, and invoking an alternative (“not normal”) response. Almost assuredly without the person ever being cognitively aware of this process.
So I guess what I’m suggesting is that; it’s normal to be sexually attracted to children, and that those who are not are deluding themselves.<
I think you are right that James Cantor gets it back-to-front, but what you outline above includes a socially-induced process (suppressed feelings) in our culture that is far from universal. There is a near-universal incest taboo, for sure, but even that has fascinating exceptions such that even father-daughter incest is acceptable is some matrilineal cultures. That is because the taboo is directed against sex with the mother’s kin, and the biological father is seen as a sort of in-law, so the taboo does not apply to him but would apply to his wife’s brothers if she has any.
As for anyone deluding themselves if they say that they are not sexually attracted to children, there are good evolutionary reasons for believing otherwise. Our psychology has evolved to secure reproduction (homosexuality is a problem within this, but let’s not get too complicated), and for the male (again, for simplicity, let’s stick with the male) there are two alternative strategies for achieving this target.
One is to be promiscuous, mating with as many women as possible without exclusive pair bonding with any one woman. Kings and other alpha-types sometimes have big harems and succeed spectacularly with this strategy, siring hundreds of offspring.
The other is to invest heavily in a single relationship, giving just one female a lot of protection and support, and also caring for the family, which are good ways of maximising the children’s chances of surviving to reproductive age.
This existence of these two strategies, both of which can be a great success, and both of which are easy to find – there are lots of devoted family men but also lots of faithless letharios – suggests that human males have evolved with differing levels of interest in and commitment to children. We would expect these different levels to be expressed in a range of levels of their sexual attraction to children.
Just such a range, a wide range, is shown (subject to any correction from Filip!) in lab tests of male sexual response to images etc of children. At the lower end, many men do appear to have pretty much zero sexual response to children; but in many others there is a strong response.
I haven’t gone into it deeply, but it would be very interesting to see whether any bifurcation of response levels can be detected that would correspond to the dual nature of the two strategies just outlined.
Filip, are you there? Any thoughts/info on this?
Tom I had a quick look at 9 of the 10 relevant phallometric studies with “normal” men. It seems nearly all of these studies just report how many men showed more or equal sexual arousal to child stimuli than to adult stimuli. The little exception is the study “Sexual offenders against female children: Sexual preferences for age of victims and type of behaviour”. For this study the scientists only looked for “normal” men without any sexual feelings for children. Nevertheless three of the 22 “normal” men were more sexually aroused by 12- to 14-year-olds than by adults (“Hebephile Deviance Quotient” > 1,0). Five of the 22 men (probably including the first three men) had a “Hebephile Deviance Quotient” > 0,8 and seven of the 22 men had a “Hebephile Deviance Quotient” > 0,6. So basically we just know that 25 % (mean value) of “normal” men are more or equally sexually aroused by children than by adults in these ten phallometric studies. As you I guess that some men showed no or nearly no sexual arousal to children. It would be interesting to see someday a metaanalysis that analyses the data of these studies.
A phallometric study with 80 men who had sexual “contacts” with children (“Erectile responses among heterosexual child molesters, father-daughter incest offenders, and matched non-offenders: Five distinct age preference profiles”) showed that some men showed equal sexual arousal to children and to adults and that some men showed sexual arousal to children and adults but not to teenagers and some men just to teenagers and adults and not to children. So it seems that really a lot of different arousal patterns exist and that men can not be divided into two or three groups in this issue.
In the last weeks I did a comparison how scientists of the past constructed “races” in their heads and how they construct(ed) sexual age preference categories in their head. Since about 1950 science learned that it is not true that fours “races” exist and I guess science will learn in the future too that those sexual age preference-categories like “pedophilia”, “hebephilia”, … does not exist in reality and that the reality is much more complex than we currently believe. I guess it was Magnus Hirschfeld who said there are as many sexualities as there are people in the world. By the way the number and the depth of the similarities of racism and pedophobia is immense. I read several texts about racism and very often I thought: Exactly the same thing with pedophobia.
What I don´t understand: Why are the results of the many phallometric studies with men who had sexual “contacts” with children not used to analyze if “pedophilia” is a continuum or a discrete category? I guess such an analysis would very quickly show that “pedophilia” is a continuum and that the mental construct “pedophilia” is a arbitrary amputation of that continuum.
>some men showed sexual arousal to children and adults but not to teenagers
Fascinating discontinuity here. If there were many such men it would provide strong grounds for my tentative bifurcation hypothesis underpinned by two alternative reproductive strategies. But in reality the pattern is much more mixed, as you say. I don’t think the pattern of attraction measured across whole populations can be random because it has inevitably been moulded by distinct evolutionary pressures; individual psychological development, though, is open to all manner of more or less random influences, including genetic mutation.
There may be a continuous age-of-attraction distribution curve of males to females, probably peaking at the start of the fertility cycle, when females have their entire reproductive capacity ahead of them. That would make ephebophilia males’ first preference. Alternatively, attraction could typically be greatest just before fertility begins, on the basis of a need in the EEA to secure a mate ahead of the competition. That would tend to make males preferentially hebephiles. I suggest the cultural evidence for the former is far more convincing, but with hebephilia also a not uncommon preference.
>What I don´t understand: Why are the results of the many phallometric studies with men who had sexual “contacts” with children not used to analyze if “pedophilia” is a continuum or a discrete category? I guess such an analysis would very quickly show that “pedophilia” is a continuum and that the mental construct “pedophilia” is a arbitrary amputation of that continuum.
Some researchers, including Mike Bailey, are in love with taxons. Mike has been so keen to divide the world sharply, based on evolutionary underpinning, that he has struggled even with the idea that bisexuals truly exist, among males at least. I haven’t followed this area of his work closely, but if I understand him rightly, he thinks (or used to think) that “bisexuals” were just gay men pretending for social acceptability reasons to be sexually attracted to women. This theory has become less and less plausible as gayness has become more and more socially accepted. His own research has also undermined his theory. To his credit, he appears to be accepting that he was wrong.
Bailey and a Canadian PhD student actually had a brief exchange on Sexnet recently which revealed that there is a bit of work going on over the the taxon-continuum debate. To my mind Blanchard’s “alloerotic” paper already clearly indicates a continuum, based on phallometric data.
>>>”I guess science will learn in the future too that those sexual age preference-categories like “pedophilia”, “hebephilia”, … does not exist in reality and that the reality is much more complex than we currently believe.”
I will comment on this because is important. There is no such thing as “hebephilia”, it is an invention to mark and criminalize sexually healthy men, as shown by the rubbish of “crimes against female children” (the name gives a clue that it is pseudoscience). First, because 12-14 years-old ARE NOT CHILDREN, in big words for better reading, from puberty are young adults, is biological, is not an personal opinion, a child is a prepubescent, whether natural or not the attraction to them, which is natural, by the way, as I explained in my commentary to JP Meadows, I do not need any study to know.
Two. Because every sexually common man (at least most men, many women possibly) is attracted to pubescent girls, why? 13 years-old to up are enough developed, just like an older adult, have breasts, hips and body and mind developed. If a man is attracted to a woman’s body, it will be attracted to a very young woman’s body too, when a man says he does not like adolescents, he lies and represses himself, consciously or not. It is a fact. is not a ‘deviance’ of a X amount of men.
There is also no proof of the existence of ephebophilia (or mesophilia and others), and I assure that it is a joke of bad taste that any honest person follow the game to people like Seto. yes, there is a primary emotional and emotional attraction for teenagers as it happens to me, but that does not is what Seto and Blanchard speak, that is a separate attraction to adults, who is ridiculous. Common sense here: a 16 years old is an adult, they are absolutely depeloved, for God’s sake, if a man likes women of 25 will also like 16, at least sexually, Seto, Blanchy please do not take me for a fool .
>>>”In the last weeks I did a comparison how scientists of the past constructed “races” in their heads and how they construct(ed) sexual age preference categories in their head. Since about 1950 science learned that it is not true that fours “races” exist”
I know it’s off-topic but if you mention it … No friend, it was not an invention, it was the most honest thing that’s been done in a long time, race is the most important thing for a person after sexuality, And not because socioecomonic factors but biological factors, everything that I am I owe it to my race, that does not mean that if I had been born in other races I would win in something and lose in something, that is the good thing of the diversity of nature.
>>>”By the way the number and the depth of the similarities of racism and pedophobia is immense. I read several texts about racism and very often I thought: Exactly the same thing with pedophobia.”
No, actually if you have to compare is racism to pedophilia, because both are attraction to something, a race or an age, and that is neither good nor bad, but a trait that have more or less people, thee really bad is when you do harm because of it, like supremacism or abuse.
>when a man says he does not like adolescents, he lies and represses himself, consciously or not. It is a fact.
Order, please do not represent your opinions as facts in this way. It is aggressive and bombastic. Your post is also quite long, which is fine when the quality is up to it, but this post is not. In your case, I am going to ask you to keep your posts short or they will run the risk of being deleted.
Hi, Filip! I think part of the problem in determining how much of a commitment individual men may have to children in comparison to others is compounded by the fact that in the studies you discuss, and often within the media, only the raw sexual interests of Kind people are measured and determined. We seem to as yet have no interest, or even any methodology, to determine the emotional aspects of the attraction bases, including the nurturing aspects that many pedophiles of a male gender say is part of their natural attraction package. That is, the whole package, not just the sexual attraction that most of the researchers and media outlets seem concerned about.
Is it possible that pedophiles are an evolutionary creation designed to insure that there are a select group of people who have a strong nurturing aspect to the children of the species beyond the more limited sense of parents, who are usually mainly interested in providing this for their own progeny alone? Is the sexual aspect of the attraction simply a component designed to create further interest and deeper bonding capabilities to see to it that a nurturing basis is maintained beyond the offspring of these particular adults (and adolescents)? Now of course, many non-Kind adults have an interest in nurturing a slew of kids that are not their own offspring, and such adults would doubtless step in here (as they have elsewhere) and remind me that a sexual component is not necessary to facilitate a nurturing aspect towards multiple children who are not the adults’ own progeny. I can accept this. However, is it still not possible that the sexual component present with typical pedophiles nevertheless adds something to the mix that non-Kind broad caregivers cannot generally provide, something that enables pedophiles to perhaps understand and bond with kids in a way that non-Kind adults cannot?
I cannot provide any definitive answers, obviously, but I would like to see more research conducted in the non-sexual aspects of the overall Kind attraction base(s) to determine this. There is still far too much phenomena that are a natural part of the lives of MAPs but which the mainstream research community all but ignores.
>>>> Now of course, many non-Kind adults have an interest in nurturing a slew of kids that are not their own offspring, and such adults would doubtless step in here (as they have elsewhere) and remind me that a sexual component is not necessary to facilitate a nurturing aspect towards multiple children who are not the adults’ own progeny.
But I would argue that there has to be an erotic element, irrespective of any desire to take that eroticism further into sexual behaviour.
I am thinking here of the ideas of Alison Pryer, especially her paper `What Spring Does With the Cherry Trees’: the eros of teaching and learning. (Teachers and Teaching: theory and practice, Vol. 7, No. 1, 2001) in which she says:
How we may wish to define eros is an entirely open question, but for me it seems that it entails a physical and emotional and intellectual component, and that it is a type of response to the life (force/energy) of an other; without eros, or, perhaps more clearly, without the erotic presence which eros creates within us, it may well be that there could be no friendships, loves, or sexual desires. And yes, I see this as both personal and as a continuum: the erotic presence of a person attracts us to them, and this may then develop in many different directions, including a sexual relationship.
As usual, I am trying to find what lies behind what is being discussed, and the only think I can come up with is eros which, in many ways, is what Freud meant when he was talking about sexuality. (The baby’s eros, or maybe life force is easier to accept term, pushes it toward sexuality… because eros is sexuality at its most basic.)
On this view, which I am still thinking out, all sexuality is available at the beginning of life, and differentiates as we age, into the various sexualities, of which “paedophilia” is one. (This also entails, in my opinion, that everyone is slightly paedosexual, slightly homosexual, slightly *sexual, with just one being the primary sexuality. Suck that, Blanchard and Cantor, who I am now reading, just for the horror of it. Personal comment…)
Must throw in another quote from Pryer’s essay:
Eros, in the broad sense, is not con® ned to the erotics of sexuality, but is that which infuses life into all our partnerships and interactions. Eros is in the partnership of ourselves and creation, between one person and another, between colleagues, students, friends, lovers, and ultimately in relation to our own selves. Eros is the life force.
She is quoting an unpublished PhD thesis by Schroeder, from Simon Fraser University.
‘far too much phenomena’
far too MANY phenomena, Diss! 🙂
Whoops! You done caught me slackin’ on da grammar, dewd! 😉
“James is actually on record as being against mandatory reporting laws, which require doctors and other professionals to report to the authorities anyone coming to them for advice or therapy if they disclose any offence. His objection is that such laws deter paedophiles from seeking help – a very strong point because some people are genuinely desperate or even out of control and really do need it.”
I am attempting to locate a law firm willing to support me as a client re obligation on the State to protect the right to life (Article 2: Right To Life), and the NHS’s failure to uphold this obligation in my case.
Whilst I was a patient seeking help from an NHS mental health care agency, I divulged my primary sexuality believing that they would keep that information confidential. In an initial interview they rated me as at high risk from self-harm or suicide. By the fourth interview they told me they had reported me to the police. On the same day I attempted suicide.
I googled ‘Human Rights Lawyer UK’, and selected the first of those that popped up: ‘Irwin Mitchell … specialist human rights lawyers with particular experience challenging abuses …’. Ominously, their website opened to a page with a photo of a little girl whispering into the ear of a little boy! Their response in an email communication professing Straightforward Legal Advice: “Having reviewed the information that you provided, I regret to inform you that we are unable to assist you with your enquiry as this is not an area of law undertaken by/offered by Irwin Mitchell.”
I contacted the Law Society. Their response: ‘If you have not already done so, please provide us with your postcode to enable us to proceed with your search.’ This was not particularly helpful because I am a UK non-resident. So I emailed them again requesting a list of appropriate firms. No response, so I emailed them once more. Their reply: ‘I’ve searched for some London based practices that may be able to help you with your case if contact them DMH Stallard LLP, Veale Wasbrough Vizards LLP, Weightmans LLP.’
DMH Stallard LLP: “I am very sorry but we are unable to help with your enquiry. Sorry for the delay in responding to you. Dani Bennett.” No indication whether she was a secretary or a partner.
Veale Wasbrough Vizards LLP: “Claims arising out of the brief circumstances you describe are very difficult and I think you will need a very specialist firm. I suggest you contact Irwin Mitchell who specialise in medical claims.” Quelle suprise, the very same firm I contacted earlier.
Weightmans LLP: No response.
I also turned to Liberty for assistance with my quest, and completed their online contact form. Ten days ago I received this advice: ‘Thank you for contacting Liberty’s Advice and Information Service. Please note that we receive a high volume of emails. Due to our limited resources, it can take some time for us to respond.’ On their website they say: ‘Liberty is a small organisation with limited resources. We receive a large number of queries but can only take up a very small proportion of these as cases. We focus our efforts on bringing test cases in the areas of law that are of greatest concern to us. We use our casework to achieve positive changes to the law. Most of our cases are brought under the Human Rights Act or using European human rights law.’
Anyone out there who knows of a UK firm dealing in Human Rights related cases that I might contact? Thanks.
Walking to School!!!!!!!!!
3.04, “Jim & Margie have learned NEVER to accept a ride with ANYONE! Unless they have their parents permission. After all, someone you don’t know may be a VERY poor pedo?”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dnZNHDkE_Dg
Absolutely nauseating. Jim and Margie must be dumb as rocks to need this much instruction just to walk a few blocks to school.
Post-Ped Mein Trumpf’s 4th Reich!
http://www.private-eye.co.uk/current-issue
As the commentators have already said all the relevant issues here I have had the need to compose this great song only for Heretics and the several metropolitan police that frequent it, I do not think a bit of good vibes hurt people here! Also makes a good summary of the exposed for the lazy heretics!
“Gimme Danger (Order MAP Mix)”
Gimme danger, fake underager
And I’ll give you a PIE
Gimme danger, fake underager
And you can feel my DSM-5 disease
There’s nothing in my dreams
Just some white matteries
Kiss me like the virtuous pedophiles
(hey!)
Now if I will be your girlover
You will shiver insane
But if I can be your molester
You will do anything
There’s nothing left to normalize
But a pair transgender rights
Rape my statutory feelings one more time
(yeah!)
Find a little girl and find a little stranger
Yeah you’re gonna feel my creepy hand
Said:
I need a little angel, want a little danger
Yeah you’re gonna feel my creepy hand
Yeah you’re gonna feel my creepy hand
Yeah you’re gonna feel my creepy hand
Gimme danger
Fake underager
Gimme danger
Fake underager
Gimme danger
Fake underager
Gimme danger
Fake underager
Gimme danger
Fake underager
Can you expose me?
You gotta expose me!
You gotta expose this
Fake underager…
I’m now trying to spread a positive message about intergenerational sexuality outside of the confines of “Paedo-sphere”. Since I’m a member of Skeptiko podcast and forum, which is probably the leading forum for debating the whole range controversial (“radical”, “fringe”, “alternative”, “contrarian” etc.) topics, posting there under name of “Vortex”, I decided to defend consensual child-adult sex (and child liberation) in this long and detailed post:
http://www.skeptiko-forum.com/threads/mind-boggled-satanist-us-army-mind-control-et-al.3493/page-2#post-106432
Tom, everyone: how would you evaluate this work of mine? It took a lot of time and effort – I tried my best in this daring presentation of ultra-heretical view we hold here!
Congratulations on having a go. Haven’t read it yet: I’ll try to give it careful scrutiny tomorrow morning. Even a brief glance, though, tells me it looks as though Skeptico’s readers are being presented with a wonderful challenge to their preconceptions!
The first thing I saw on the page was in the comments above your big post, Explorer. There was an extract from a contribution by “Doppelgänger”:
“I’ve noticed these arguments coming back around again (PIE died out in the 80s), with the new “Virtuous Pedophiles” movement. Some left-wing sites, like the deplorable Salon and others, are promoting this. Sad to see this come back around again.”
Poor old VP! It doesn’t seem to make much difference how earnestly they proclaim their “virtue”!
“Poor old VP! It doesn’t seem to make much difference how earnestly they proclaim their “virtue”!”
If one want to change something, one HAS to be radical – wilful self-castigation in front of one’s tormentors and begging for their mercy simply won’t work. And beyond being ineffective, if not counterproductive, such acts of self-humiliation are also deeply hypocritical: one thing in which I do agree with “Doppelgänger” and other anti-paedosexuality people on this thread is that even the most “virtous” of VPs are quite unlikely to remain principially celibate if child-adult sex is legalised one day! So, the “anti-contact” stance of VPs is simply empty rhetoric which, I suspect, even VPs themselves secretly disbelive.
Being honestly and explicitly “pro-contact” is, at least, preserves one’s dignity and integrity. And, given the new acceleration of historical change (could one imagine our current situation – with Trump, Brexit, falling establishment and crumbling world order – just a few years ago?), “pro-contact” position may earn one place in new rebellious movements which, I think, are coming.
In my opinion, world is now moving through the new version of 1980s: Donald Trump as a new Ronald Reagan, Syria as a new Afganistan, Ukraine as a new Poland, “Pizzagate” debacle as a new Satanic Panic, “terrorist recruiter grooming” fears as new “cult brainwashing” stories… And so on. And, I hope, the next period after the one we’re facing would be marked by a new libertarian uprising in the style of 1960s and 1970s, so we will be able to return to the path of humanistic progress which was seemingly lost and forgotten during the 1980s reactionary wave.
An very excellent summary of the issues for people who are somewhat open to thinking about unthinkable things. I would like to have a copy of this as an essay, and post it on uryourstory.org. The dates suggest that this was posted some time ago. What followed with regard to discussion and to your acceptance in the group?
People in our position are fond of saying that political action is not possible at the present time. You disprove this. The core goal of political activity must be the changing of minds. Collectively and personally we do what we do because we think as we do. Only when minds are changed will the institutions of society change. You have found a way and a place to insert this rather unpopular discourse into a group outside the choir. That is politics at its best. Tom is attempting to do the same on SexNet. We should be discussing other ways to do this.
No, we are not ready to go to the streets and demand the abolition of age-consent laws. That may come in time. But that kind of politics is made possible only by the kind of political action you are engaged in.
The present issue is not coming out on top in public discourses. It is opening the discourse. It is not just heretical opinions that are being repressed. It is the discourse itself. One the discourse gets under way, we will win. We are at present outnumbered. But on almost every point, the truth is on our side. That gives us the advantage.
j
Truth is on our side. Yes Jim Hunter
“I would like to have a copy of this as an essay, and post it on uryourstory.org.”
I sent a copy of my slightly edited (for publication purposes) essay via contact page of your website.
And thanks for you readiness to publish me – it’s a pleasant surprise indeed!
Now read it. Explorer, this is an excellent piece of work. It starts in the right place, with children’s sexuality. It is well structured, well argued and deeply informative.
Indeed, there is a difficult paradox here, isn’t there? The more obviously a writer knows his stuff on these matters, the more likely they are to be regarded with suspicion. I see there is just the one substantive response so far, from Michael Larkin, which takes a standard conservative line: “I thank God for my precious period of innocence…” I just hope a few contributors (perhaps people less inclined to bring God into the debate?) will show themselves less enamoured of “innocence”.
It was a great essay, Explorer! I’m sure you know, however, that it will not convince anyone on that forum who has already made up their mind about the issue, because their emotions will effectively block their ability to absorb the info objectively. One thing I suggest you add are links to some recent theses written by psychologists and sociologists that display a gradually changing view of the subject, including those recently posted online by Brian Cash, Carin Friemond, and Alison Walker, all required reading for anyone who has a sincere desire to understand this topic, and who need validation that there are many non-Kind researchers who do not take a mindlessly “anti” approach to the topic.
You will also note that one of the commentators seems to have mistaken Robert Epstein for Jeffery Epstein, and attempted to discredit the former by posting to this sensationalistic article about the latter:
http://radaronline.com/videos/jeffrey-epstein-accused-forcing-young-woman-perform-sex-acts-lawsuit/
Explorer: Please note first that the link claiming to be to Robert Epstein’s article “The Myth of the Teen Brain” goes in fact to the English version of the book by Ariès.
Next, in your essay you repeat the assertion made (among others) by Rind & al. that a child’s consent is “simple” and not “informed”. This is an unnecesary concession to current prejudice.
In non-sexual matters, “informed consent” means that before signing your consent, you have received all information considered necessary by law. If you undergo a surgical operation, the doctors must inform you of the benefits, risks and negative consequences associated to each choice, operating or not operating. If you are used in a scientific experiment, you must be informed of the purpose of the experiment, of the risks and of your rights. If you buy estate property, you must be informed of any mortgage, easement or any technical impediment to your enjoyment of your property. In non-contractual matters, things could be similar. For riding a bicycle on a road, an informed child must know the basics of the road code, the importance of wearing a helmet, and be able to fit it on her head. For sexuality, informed consent would thus mean that the child shows having received and understood basic information about genital anatomy, sexuality, pregnancy, STDs, putting a condom when necessary, the meaning of consent, etc. This could well be possible for intelligent preteens, who are “children” both legally and sexologically (i.e., not having started gonadal puberty).
Next, in your essay you repeat the assertion made (among others) by Rind & al. that a child’s consent is “simple” and not “informed”. This is an unnecesary concession to current prejudice.
It is not a concession to prejudice, because Rind showed that simple consent is a predictor of the outcome of children’s sexual contacts with older persons (i.e. bad consequences without consent, but no bad consequences as a result of the act itself if consent, even simple, is present). Your example of the bike is an ad-hoc example, because riding a bike is not a natural human aspect as is sexuality. We could take eating: a child does not need to know about digestion mechanisms or vitamin content in food in order to eat:(s)he eats chicken because it tastes good; however, if we force a child to eat something that (s)he does not like, or when (s)he does not feel like it because (s)he has headaches, then it can be problematic. And yet children need basic information and guidance, because otherwise they would eat French fries and chocolate all the day.
In Rind & al’s study, statistics show that positive outcomes are positively correlated with “consent”, the data available did not allow to distinguish whether the children were informed or not, whether the consent was “simple” or “informed”. The distinction between “simple” and “informed” consent comes only in the discussion, and is not supported by statistical data. So it is a concession to prejudice to say that the child’s consent is always “simple”. In my mind, if the child has received and understood sufficient basic information, she is informed and her consent is informed.
I don’t see the point of your distinction between “unnatural” activities like bicycle riding and natural ones as eating or sex. Cooking food is unnatural, as is using a bed and mattress for sex, and in fact all our sex is influenced by culture.
You know, it isn’t a bad piece of writing, but I have to agree with Christian (below) about consent. Instead of commenting about that, however, I’ll refer you to my thought experiment at
https://bjmuirhead.wordpress.com/2016/09/14/informed-consent-and-children/
I’m still working on these views, so they will be refined a bit.
I did feel that you were being a bit “gentle” with those who may never have thought about this before, but that probably was a good option. (“human kind cannot bear too much reality”, after all.)
Tom, I have found a new wonderful website candidate for a blogroll inclusion – “Consenting Juveniles”:
http://www.consentingjuveniles.com/
It’s a research site that contains many actual cases of consensual child-adult sexual relationships of all types (man-girl, man-boy, woman-boy, woman-girl), like “Positive Memories” by T. Rivas (remember that book?) Some sections of the site are still “under construction”, but cases gathered are worthy enough for this site to be “blogrolled”.
Marshall Burns, a researcher who is now in the process of constructing the site, has another one, dedicated to study and criticism of “sex offender” laws – “SOL Research” – that can be included in blogroll as well:
http://www.solresearch.org/
And, for anyone interested, here is Marshall Burns’ personal website:
http://www.mburns.com/
I think, more actual information about consensual intergenrational sexuality – and stupidity of “sex offender” legislation, would be useful for blog visitors!
Excellent suggestions, Explorer. Many thanks!
I am actually familiar with Marshall’s work but putting his sites on my Blogroll has somehow escaped my attention.
>I think, more actual information about consensual intergenrational sexuality – and stupidity of “sex offender” legislation, would be useful for blog visitors!
You mean on other pages of the blog site? Good idea, but also quite a lot of work to assemble and present the info in a readable, pleasing-to-the-eye way. I don’t think I can handle that. My time is fully committed. But if there are heretics here who would like a project to work on, I would be happy to consider loading their work up onto a page, or maybe it could be done remotely.
“I think, more actual information about consensual intergenrational sexuality – and stupidity of “sex offender” legislation, would be useful for blog visitors!”
“You mean on other pages of the blog site?”
No, I meant Marshall’s sites that contain such actual information.
As for data-searching, Google Scholar, with its options to find not just papers of some authors, but also papers that quote them and similar papers, is a wonderful tool. As well as databases of IPCE, which contain a lot of stuff and is presented on your blogroll.
>No, I meant Marshall’s sites that contain such actual information.
Doh! Of course! Why reinvent the wheel when the material is already well presented just a single Blogroll click away!
>As for data-searching, Google Scholar, with its options to find not just papers of some authors, but also papers that quote them and similar papers, is a wonderful tool.
Yes, it’s great, isn’t it?
==hissy fits, dubious science, egotistic self-promotion and evangelical moral entrepreneurship==
Lol, I can hear that in a libretto. And wouldn’t this all make a great theme for musical theatre!
==giving James a defiant blast of their own, followed by their swift demotion to non-posting status for failing to know their station.==
Well I don’t have the restraint of some so, thanks to JC, my non-posting status on sexnet is a distant memory… Nevertheless, I have the academic background to evaluate his work and, frankly, it’s always seemed pretty crap. I want to believe the best of him, but he continues to use his position to spout harmful bullshit.
==James did not really believe paedophiles never feel parental-type love for children. My reaction: no, maybe not, but that is effectively what he said in public and it is pure poison because it suggests that Kind people are wired up to be unkind – selfishly interested only in their sexual expression and callously indifferent to children’s feelings and best interests.==
This is the crux of the matter: that reproductive behaviour naturally involves a complex of sex and nurturing. They are never absolutely distinct.
Its fair to say that social constraints around sex with children are motivated in part by problematic aspects of sex with children, especially one’s own, but also in part by social anxieties and political agendas.
Regardless of motivation, the stigmatizing and dehumanizing of paedophiles is unethical and no clinician should encourage it
>And wouldn’t this all make a great theme for musical theatre!
Actually, I think James has missed his metier. He is a drama queen in every sense: he’s gay, turns his life into something as bizarre and OTT as Jerry Springer: The Opera at every opportunity, and is actually a big fan of musical movies and theatre. He might well have been a superstar had he followed a Broadway/Hollywood career path, instead of merely being a wannabe big name in science.
Are you reading this, James. You are not all that old. It may not be too late for stage and screen. Why not go for it?!
As you know, Tom, I myself have been looking at Dr Cantor’s research quite a lot over the past few months, and certain key aspects of it seem to have methodological flaws which weaken his findings.
These flaws all boil down to what is a somewhat summary rejection of the role of stigma on the developing brain and personality of those who discover, possibly as young as 12 or 13, that they belong to the most loathed and isolated group of people in society.
Cantor tries to eliminate Stigma from consideration by doing a methodologically sloppy exercise in covariance using the self-reported educational careers of the various sex offenders in his sample. But I won’t go into detail here as I will be posting about this on my blog some time in the next few months.
Cantor has published some 8 or 9 papers on paedophilia since 2002. The Word ‘Stigma’ makes its first appearance in a paper published only a few months ago called ‘non-offending pedophiles’. In this paper he acknowledges the damaging effects of stigma on the personality and brain (in fact he veritably binges on this new-to-him concept, using the word stigma 53 times in this paper – it being the 20th most common word).
However he consistently applies the concept of stigma only to ‘non-offending’ paedophiles. Nowhere does he seem to acknowledge that stigma can affect the brains and behaviour of paedophiles who have offended. He clearly things that ‘offending paedophiles’ brains function differently to those of ‘non-offending pedophiles’.
I suspect what underlies this is that Cantor assumes that ‘stigma’ is only stigma when he, and/or society, considers it as undeserved (as with homosexuals, people with facial deformations, the mentally disabled etc). In Cantor’s mind the OFFENDING paedophile deserves the hate and loathing they experience – and therefore the term ‘stigma’ is not applicable, and therefore the mechanisms of stigma can have no effect on the brain and personality of the offending paedophile.
Yet nearly every ‘offending pedophile’ was once a ‘non-offending pedophile’.
Does ‘stigma’ stop damaging the brain once one has offended? Or is the stigma the offender experienced before he offended (and which Cantor acknowledges) somehow annulled because he offended? What about those paedophiles whom stigma has made more liable to offend? Does the stigma they suffered, and which weakened them to the point of offending, stop being ‘stigma’ once they’ve offended and just become ‘deserved hate and loathing’?
>” In one of James’s televised interview points he claimed, as he has done elsewhere, that paedophilia is characterised by crossed wiring in the brain. He said that instead of having parental or avuncular feelings towards children, paedophiles identify them as sex objects.
Where, I asked, was this “instead of” coming from? Why would it by one or the other rather than both?”
This is a very good point – does Cantor’s research in anyway justify the ‘instead of’ rather than ‘as well as’? My own nurturing instincts and impulses are very strong indeed.
Again it seems Cantor’s research is all about finding what he’s looking for – his whole approach smacks of that of a man with a hammer, to whom every problem is a nail.
I very much look forward to your blog on this, LSM.
>Yet nearly every ‘offending pedophile’ was once a ‘non-offending pedophile’.
Nearly?
>>LSM “Yet nearly every ‘offending pedophile’ was once a ‘non-offending pedophile’.”
>TOC “Nearly?”
Aye lad.
I was thinking of someone who, throughout childhood, had an active sex life with other children, and who continued doing so after he/she had passed the age where such interactions stop being ‘peer-to-peer sexual interaction’ and become ‘child sexual abuse’.
It could be argued that such a person went straight from being ‘a child’ (or indeed ‘a victim’) to an ‘offending paedophile’ without ever having been a ‘non-offending paedophile’.
I guess it depends on how one defines ‘child’, ‘paedophile’ and ‘offending’.
>I guess it depends on how one defines ‘child’, ‘paedophile’ and ‘offending’.
Yes, it does.
Children under 10 in England & Wales are below the age of criminal responsibility, so they cannot be charged with any criminal offence.
They cannot be held criminally responsible, but (like someone who deliberately kills another person while insane) that does not mean they cannot break the law, or be an offender. It is an offence in the UK for anyone to have sexual activity with a child under 16. This applies to other children as well. A nine-year-old, or indeed much younger, would commit an offence by sexually touching a 15-year-old; it would be an offence in law, just as it would be an offence for a 9yo to sexually touch a 5yo.
Yes, great observations LSM. From Self-Identifications, Sexual Development and Wellbeing in MAPs … an exploratory study by Brian Martin Cash, Cornell University (ecommons.cornell.edu/bitstream/handle/1813/45135/bmc87.pdf?sequence=1&isAllowed=y) [thanks to Stephen6000]
‘The conceptualization of pedophilia as a sexual orientation affects how it should be studied, scientifically. First, the major methodological issues of the current research need to be rectified. Most of the research cited thus far relies on either clinical or forensic populations (Capra, Forresi, & Caffo, 2014; Hall & Hall, 2007). That is, these are individuals who have been referred for clinical treatment for their desires or who have been incarcerated for committing sexual offenses against children. There are a myriad of reasons why this population is likely unrepresentative of minor-attracted people in general. It is likely that most minor-attracted people have never had any contact with the criminal justice system. In two samples of pedophiles studied in non-forensic settings, 57% and 79% of them, respectively, had never had any known sexual contact with a child (Riegel, 2004; Seto, Cantor, & Blanchard, 2006). Additionally, the intense stigma towards pedophilia makes it unlikely that non-offenders would volunteer for research, meaning that all estimates of offending are likely to be greatly overestimated. Additionally, only about half of incarcerated sex offenders against children are pedophilic (Seto, 2012). Nevertheless, pedophilic and non-pedophilic offenders often get lumped in together in research, despite their important differences. This complicates many of the conclusions that have been drawn about “pedophiles.”’
Tom, Never ever give an inch to them. I had it out with a bully at my senior center today and boy did it feel good standing up for myself. It felt real good ptting a stupid old Marine in his place. 🙂 Lukas
My dear old Tom,
Once again, you demonstrate your great good humour and your amazing generosity towards people who scarcely deserve it. Some of the many sources you discuss though, do deserve your attention and even praise. Others are the legendary holders of The One Truth (absolutists by any other name), who really do believe that there is such a thing as a One-Sided Argument.
My thanks for a wonderful blog! M T-W.
Tom, the situation with Creep Catchers sounds very similar to the sordid saga of the vigilante group Perverted Justice and their alliance with the TV tabloid show Dateline NBC and their “To Catch a Predator” segment, both of which were extremely popular for about four years in the U.S. during the previous decade. They all engaged in similar entrapment schemes with adults who believed they were meeting in public with a minor, only to be shamed, taunted, and harassed on video upon their arrival at the agreed designation by the show’s host, the infamous sensation-monger Chris Hanson. The founder of P.J., Xavier Von Erck (name legally changed from Philip Eide), was a real piece of work known for his rude public behavior, bullying attitudes, a notorious self-admitted misandrist (is this surprising?), and a malicious willingness to use online deception to destroy detractors: he once enticed a former friend, Bruce Raisely, into leaving his wife by pretending to be a woman online, where he gradually seduced Raisely and engaged in long tracts of cybersex with the unsuspecting victim; after patiently building this bogus relationship over the course of several months, finally encouraged Raisely to go to the airport for the purpose of traveling to live with his new paramour… only to find Von Erck waiting for him there instead, where he revealed the truth of the situation as a lesson to what happens to anyone who “threatens PervertedJustice.com” (he also posted the cybersex conversations online to further humiliate Raisely). In an attempt to make his organization appear “open-minded” and legit, he would go out of his way to recruit members of the LGBT community to openly serve as staff and fellow vigilantes, and maintained a forum atmosphere that was very friendly and pandering to members of the vanilla gay community (a tired old tactic).
At first, the police cooperated with P.J. and NBC’s activities, as they couldn’t resist the brownie points they received from the public and media for doing so. After all, the hatred towards MAPs was at its peak then, and they were initially lauded as heroes working with citizen heroes. After a while, though, the police started becoming critical of their activities when what they were doing was clearly obstruction of justice and taking the law into their own hands in many cases. This took a particularly nasty turn when one of the men who was entrapped, a homosexual local councilman named Louis Conradt, committed suicide as Hanson’s camera crew converged on his home. Dateline NBC was cancelled soon afterwards, as entrapment and shaming of sad individuals for the entertainment of the masses had finally gone too far even in this political climate. Very few of the men who were arrested under the machinations of this vigilante group and Hanson’s crew were successfully indicted, because legal procedure was so brazenly violated.
As time passed, their methodology came under more scrutiny when their tactics got increasingly out of hand, and it was more clear that Von Erck was making a hefty profit off of the consultation fees the organization was regularly pulling in. This led to a citizen group called Corrupted Justice (now defunct) forming to combat them, and their investigations exposed how such a large number of P.J.’s members and bloggers were suffering from mental illness and had numerous issues of their own, thus making clear what many had long suspected: Von Erck and his allies had a lot of rage to work out, and settling for an easy target like the Kind community (and the occasional non-Kind detractor who pissed them off) was the best way to do it while being lauded rather than hated by the public. This didn’t work out in the end, of course, because all such organizations invariably overreach and blatantly cause more harm than “good” over the long run, to the point where neither the police nor citizens can indefinitely overlook their stated reasons for harassing even such a hated group as MAPs.
Now, doesn’t Creep Catchers sound like a Canadian version of Perverted Justice? Doesn’t the entire scenario that Cantor is supporting sound like a reprise of this whole sorry saga just waiting to recur? Both you and Judith were right to oppose this from the get-go, Tom. Cantor needs to put what he seems to consider short term expediency aside and observe the proven long-term consequences of supporting something like this.
Great info, Dissy!
Hanson and Co. are at it again, incase anyone didn’t know.
Hansen vs Predator Playlist [8 episodes]
I’m wondering about this “Tetrin Core”, and have no idea if that’s even the correct spelling of their name, as I’ve not tracked anything down about them, yet…I think a lot more attention needs to be paid to them, and a lot of looking into them needs to happen.
Given Perverted Justice’s quiet and deliberate slow shutdown…I’m wondering if they didn’t just re-brand themselves, because their reputation was so abysmal [they were a self avowed hate group], lay low and then resurface with their buddy Chris, for another payday.
Who in the heck is going to sign up for this again, given as much trouble as it caused the first time around?…Very stupid, arrogant, malicious idiots, that’s who…Hence, my suspicion.
A man committed suicide, for crying out loud.
I have no respect at all left for Chris Hansen, or anybody who works with that blood sucking parasite.
Here was my comment that Tom describes as a personal attack. It was actually an effort to answer his question. I did not intend it to be a personal attack.
Tom wrote:
“James, if I may address you directly, is there something particular that puts me beyond the pale in your eyes? Would that apply generally, or just to my place on this forum?”
I replied:
Although the comment was not directed to me, I will give my perspective. We have had many extremely sharp and unpleasant exchanges over the years, both on sexnet and in other venues. On each occasion, the back and forth has started with you distorting and demeaning my views, and making insulting remarks about me and VP. I then respond in kind. My guess is that the same thing is what is happening with James.
I tried to maintain a friendly tone towards you for a long time, and eventually gave up. I find that whenever anyone challenges your core belief–that adults should be allowed to have sex with children, or maintains that your brand of advocacy is not productive, that you become extremely aggressive. And your attacks seem to be most fierce when directed towards people who are far friendlier towards pedophiles than the public generally.
You may not agree trying to draw a distinction between pedophiles who don’t have sex with children and those who do, and trying to change attitudes towards the former, is a good approach to take, but it is certainly a far more pedophile friendly approach than what we have. And I don’t believe that adult-child sex is harmful in all cases, or that it is the worst thing that could ever happen to a child, though I do believe it is harmful in many cases, sometimes severely so, and that adults should not have sex with children. Again, this is far closer to your view than you would get from the general public.
I am certainly accused of being the guilty party in terms of initiating hostilities (“On each occasion, the back and forth has started with you distorting and demeaning my views”), so I do think it is reasonable to call your post an attack, Nick.
That said, there are elements that could be interpreted as an attempt to be constructive, or at least emollient, notably your mentioning that you “don’t believe that adult-child sex is harmful in all cases”.
My problem with you in particular – this does not apply to my view of Ethan – is that right from your time with B4U-ACT, before you started VP, you seemed to be on a destructive mission. I formed the impression that you had a tendency to say one thing and do another, and that you were not to be trusted. My information on this might have been largely at second hand, as I was never a member of B4U-ACT, but my view would certainly have been reinforced by your setting up of a rival organisation that turned out to be intensely hostile not just towards coercive sexual behaviour imposed on minors (which can reasonably be called abusive), but to non-coercive Kinds as well. You seemed happy, even zealous, in smearing all of us as abusers.
This is itself abusive. When you then pretend to be friendly, it comes across as utterly false and duplicitous. It is speaking with forked tongue. It is insincere; it is treacherous.
Your real view, VP’s real view, is seen not on Sexnet or in a forum such as this, or in private email. It is seen, far more damagingly, in the stark – and utterly false – distinction you have chosen to draw between “virtuous” paedophiles and those who do not subscribe to your position. Some of what has been said by one or two spokespersons has been appallingly vicious and dehumanising, including the word “monsters” if I remember rightly.
To keep up the “Why-are-you-so-mean-to-me?” line on Sexnet in such circumstances has to be considered either brazenly two-faced or deluded on your part.
However, there does seem to have been slightly less in the way of vitriolic attack against your fellow Kinds in recent media coverage. I hope that is deliberate rather than just an oversight.
I am also aware that it is possible to be mistaken about people’s intentions, especially when the information base is somewhat thin. In your case I do not know much about you. Nick isn’t even your real name. I know nothing of your background. You might not even be a Kind person. You could be an FBI agent specialised in psychological operations, trained to sew division among the enemy.
One the other hand, your only fault may have been a failure to anticipate creating a depth of division that was never really intended. In that case I would expect your public statements in future, including on Sexnet, on your website, and in the media, to be tailored more towards positions we can unite around.
You are right that I distinguish between pedophiles who have sex with children and those who do not. I draw this distinction because I believe having sex with a child is immoral, due to the risk of harm. I also do it because I don’t think progress can be made unless we make this separation. Note that this says nothing about whether the harm is caused by iatrogenic factors.
I don’t view this as sowing dissension within the ranks, because pedophiles who hold my world view do not identify, and never did identify, with those who do not. I don’t go out of my way to criticize pedophiles who are sexually active with kids, but I do believe they are behaving immorally. If asked, I will say that, but I don’t go further than that. I have no control over what others say.
I left b4uact because I didn’t want to be associated with a group that would not say that adult-child sex is wrong, and because I considered them to be ineffective. I formed VP because I thought we could make things better for pedophiles. I think we are succeeding at that.
None of this is going to change. We are not going to agree. The question is how you want to proceed. I can do nasty. I am very good at it, as are you. I would rather not do nasty, not because your barbs bother me; they don’t. It is simply that I find the nasty exchanges to be unproductive.
I realize we will disagree at various times, and I have no problem with you expressing your disagreement. My preference, however, would be that you lose the rhetorical excess, characterize my positions fairly and in neutral terms, and make your criticisms in a thoughtful, respectful manner. If you do this, I can guarantee that I will behave likewise. We may even find that there are some things that we agree on.
>We may even find that there are some things that we agree on.
I don’t think there has ever been any doubt that we are both against mandatory reporting, say, or civil commitment; both of these are very important issues, and I am sure there are other significant areas of agreement. Indeed, to some outsiders it is the differences between us that seem hard to detect: they see a Pythonesque tussle between the People’s Front of Judea and the Judean People’s Front.
That is not how it seems from the inside, though, and I’m afraid your message today is so unbending it is hard to see any scope for the productive dialogue you imply you would welcome.
>I have no control over what others say.
When you are in discussions with the media, you have the choice of whom to put forward to speak either for VP or themselves. Either way, whether the statements are official or supposedly only personal, they will contribute to VP’s image and the public perception of paedophilia and minor attraction more generally. In practice this gives you a lot of control, does it not?
You are entitled to your opinions, as are we all. I am not sure there is anything more to be said.
Perhaps others here will find something. I would just ask other contributors to express themselves without personal abuse.
The only People we put forward are Ethan and me. Todd and Ender put themselves forward, and personally I think they do an excellent job of representing VP. You seem to think that we spend a great deal of time criticizing offenders, which is not true. We rarely talk about offenders. I suppose it is true that we criticize offenders by implication when we say that being sexually attracted to children does not make us bad people if we don’t have sexual contact with them. By implication this says that people who have sexual contact with children are behaving badly, which we believe.
The truth is that I am not looking for productive dialogue with you about our core values; they are not changing. Just as you are not changing your core beliefs. We have tried to convince one another for about five years now, to no effect.
What I am looking to from you, and offering to you, is civility and respect when we interact in the future.
The only People we put forward are Ethan and me. Todd and Ender put themselves forward, and personally I think they do an excellent job of representing VP.
I’m not certain about Ender, Nick, as I have yet to read his words, unless he is the same person as “Brett”, who has also put himself forward and whom I have seen viciously attack MAPs who are pro-choice. As for Todd, despite the affection I have for him as a person due to all he and I have been through together for many years on GC and elsewhere, his remarks about pro-choicers having loony views are not, IMO, the best way to present VP. He is a very intelligent and articulate guy, but even he cannot deny that his emotional instability has caused him to say and sometimes do some atrocious things during his breakdown periods, including his words to me during our last debate on GC where he said that he believes all pro-choicers are wannbe child molesters who simply lack the courage to act against the laws. Since he uses the same name for speaking on the various forums, which carries the implications that he is always speaking for VP, these comments are going to reflect on your organization, as GC is a public board. I’m not sure how you interpret this as doing an excellent job for promoting VP, unless you think it doesn’t matter what is said about pro-choicers. There are many individuals from VP who, IMO, would make great spokesmen for your org, as they are not filled with hatred and contempt for pro-choicers despite our ideological disagreements, but I do not see any of them being asked to be spokespeople for the org. That, to me, is a problem.
I suppose it is true that we criticize offenders by implication when we say that being sexually attracted to children does not make us bad people if we don’t have sexual contact with them. By implication this says that people who have sexual contact with children are behaving badly, which we believe.
Yet moralistic matters aside, the available evidence all suggests that it’s mainly iatrogenic and sociogenic factors that cause the harm with intergenerational relationships. That doesn’t mean the harm isn’t really harm, but it does mean that society and the mental health industry are heavily complicit with instigating the harm, yet this poignant matter is never addressed by VP in any discussion I have ever seen, because it would call too much of your ideological focus into question if you did. With the laws and lack of civil rights for youths being what they are, it’s justified to argue in favor of the laws being followed, because crossing these laws under the current status quo is very unwise and even irresponsible. However, that doesn’t make it intrinsically bad in the same sense as stealing from someone is bad.
What I am looking to from you, and offering to you, is civility and respect when we interact in the future.
I think the main problem Tom had with you this time, Nick, is that a volatile situation between Tom and Cantor had run its course and ended on a good note until you stepped in and said words that re-fueled Cantor’s ire and got him going again, thus forcing others to step in and stop the heated hostility from resuming. Sometimes it’s not only what you say and/or how you say it that can ruffle the feathers of others, but your overall timing when you say them. That means when you see a heated exchange petering out, let it die rather than stepping in and risking its re-ignition. I think you’ve been on Sexnet long enough to know exactly what type of buttons can be pushed to get Cantor going again after he’s stopped.
Needless to say, since I have friendly relations with some MAPs who are members of VP, I think oftentimes it’s more personality issues between two people of opposing ideological values that can result in uncivil communications than it is the ideological differences themselves.
I don’t know what Nick will think, but for me this is a very clear, insightful and helpful analysis,which strikes the right tone.
Dissy, you asked about “Ender”. See link below for approx half-hour audio interview with him. He is clearly very articulate and from what I remember from hearing the whole thing over a month ago, he does a pretty good job. Did he say anything insulting about “pro-contact” Kind people? I’m sticking my neck out here because I don’t have time today to play the whole interview again, but I don’t recall him saying anything obnoxious. By all means tell us what you think if you get a chance to listen.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SanNUsfyUxc&feature=youtu.be
Here is his blog below, We were following each other of Twitter for a while; He is relentlessly correcting haters about the misconception between paedophile and ‘molester’, But he shared a tweet once; can’t remember the exact detail, But it was a horrific rape of a child, and he said something along the lines of
“this is what those pro-contact MAPs just don’t get” etc: I like many, found that ignorant and offensive. And in that interview he said, “pro-contact MAPs hate us”…I wonder why!
https://medium.com/@enderphile/index-of-stories-9a31d5e0e46b#.agn9n0xkh
Ben, good to hear from you.
When I reference Todd being a good representative of VP, I refer to what he says publicly. I have no idea what he says on private emails or on GC. To be perfectly honest, the pro-contact/anti-contact issues never enter into our public outreach program. We are simply trying to get the general public to be more accepting of noncontact pedophiles–reducing stigma, increasing access to therapy, and eliminating civil commitment and sex offender registries.
On occasion, we may be asked something like how we’re able to avoid having sexual contact with kids, and we might say something like lots of kids are hurt by that and we’d never do something to hurt a kid. There’s almost never any discussion of folks who are in favor of lowering age of consent or legalizing adult-child sex. I suppose it might have come up in the odd interview, and I’d rather folks not go overboard in demonizing people who are in favor of these things. I simply say we aren’t in favor of that, and if asked about harm, I simply say I know a lot of kids have been harmed by adult-child sex, but this is really something the reporter should discuss with the experts. Folks associated with our group give a lot of interviews, and it is possible that on the odd occasion someone is unduly harsh towards the “pro-contacts.” I wish it wouldn’t happen, but interviews can be stressful and folks can go overboard, particularly if they haven’t given many interviews. I did so once early on and Mike Bailey chastised me.
My main concern is that folks who give interviews advance our primary goals, and that is how I judge whether they are good interviewees. Having said that, I repeat that I would rather folks not take shots at pro-contacts, and I am pleased that it happens very rarely.
In terms of the latest blow-up on sexnet, I was not trying to rile folks up against Tom. He asked why Cantor always treated him so harshly, and I was trying to give my perspective as I guessed Cantor wouldn’t answer. I was trying to be helpful as I thought Tom was sincerely trying to improve his relationship with Cantor and me.
I stand by what I said in my post; I believe my comments were spot on. I think the tone of Tom’s blog here, as well as the comments that set Cantor off on sexnet, were good examples of the kind of post that creates ill will. Mike Bailey was very critical of Tom’s sexnet post, and he likes Tom.
I also repeat my comment that I wish Tom and I were on better terms. I know we won’t ever agree on the proper path forward for pedophiles, but I wish he could disagree with me in a respectful and civil manner. I repeat my claim that the sniping is always started by him.
>I repeat my claim that the sniping is always started by him.<
Where you are concerned, Nick, I think you may be right. I have probably lashed out at you from sheer frustration. I could not even debate with you on Sexnet to any great extent because you would simply fall back on James’s authority, saying he’s the expert. Also, I have detected deviousness in your dealings for which the evidence may have been illusory. I am not generally paranoid, quite the reverse: I have often been too trusting, as one particular British undercover cop could testify. However, I am prepared to concede the possibility that I have at times misread you.
But this is relatively recent. I joined Sexnet in 2010, posting on the forum quite frequently, very patiently rebutting objections to Kind contacts from the likes of Paul Joannides (a writer on sex but not an expert on paedophilia) and joining in some quite technical debates on other issues to which I had given some attention, such as the possible olfactory role in the development of sexual orientation. I have even had some mutually polite, pleasant and interesting exchanges with Ray Blanchard, who is not just a leading expert on sexual orientation but also an ogre-figure to some Kinds for his championing of hebephilia as a separate disorder in DSM.
By the time the scandal over Penn State University’s coach, Jerry Sandusky, broke in 2011 I felt I was becoming a reasonably well established presence, and thus able to challenge the rather uncharacteristic rush to judgement against the guy that was being made on the forum. At one time, I found myself fielding a whole bunch of his detractors simultaneously, and doing so without getting the least bit snippy with any of them – a degree of courtesy that was not always reciprocated.
That was probably the high water mark of my contribution. By 2013 I had started H-TOC and also started doing a lot of research/editing consultancy for Prof. Bill Percy, and I had a lot less time to keep up with Sexnet.
I think this lower profile has led to my input having lower impact, along with the also diminished presence of other MAP representatives such as Richard Kramer. Subsequently, it may be that I have at times unconsciously tried to make up for the irregularity of my posts with an attempt at greater impact in the ones I do get around to making, such that they may have become a bit sharper and a bit less patient, notably towards you.
What is certainly not true, though, is the suggestion that James was ever reasonable with me and that I started hostilities with him. He was hostile from the outset, as he was with others such as Richard. Even one of the clinicians on the forum, Kirk Witherspoon, complained that he was a bully – not toward me or Richard but towards himself! Also, in a private email exchange with one of James’s colleagues, I was told that those close to him, although they like the guy, do find his rants embarrassing and hard to explain.
>I was trying to be helpful as I thought Tom was sincerely trying to improve his relationship with Cantor and me.<
I was, and I welcome your post here today.
I am all for a reset. I don’t want to have you for an enemy and I never did. Let’s both try to be cordial and respectful to one another in the future, even though we will undoubtedly disagree on things that are important to us.
I would be happier about this if it came with a parallel assurance from James. You have his ear, don’t you? All the same, this is a good development, so thanks.
@Tom This blog post have already been linked to at BC and J. Cantor replied to the resulting discussion there.
See: http://r2j4xiyckibnyd45.onion/messages/1490448.htm
[TOC: Your link isn’t working.]
GC and BC are public forums. Representatives of VP have made clear the distinction between themselves and other pedophiles (regardless of their philosophy or sexual contact with minors) is very important, both in posts on those boards, on your own site,forum and blogs and last, but not least, in contact with various forms of media.
Is it fair and neutral to proclaim other pedophiles are child molesters, criminals, scum or even selfish? Such proclamations and insinuations have been the rule, rather than the exception.
Assuming you were serious in wanting the sniping to end, perhaps you should reconsider actively promoting those hostile to pedophiles?
Will do, Tom! I’ve just been behind on things lately 🙂
Will you return to GC once again?
Yes, I have every intention of returning to GC ASAP, and I thank you for asking and showing concern for my presence there. The main difficulty right now is the technical issues related to GC’s server problem, which make it difficult for some of us to access the forum. The administration is till working on that.
Tom: apologies for the massive comment, in advance.
>>>You may not agree trying to draw a distinction between paedophiles who dont have sex with children and those who do, and trying to change attitudes towards the former, is a good approach to take, but it is certainly a far more paedophile friendly approach than what we have.
The question of whether or not trying to draw a distinction between those who do and those who do not have sex (with children) isn’t necessarily meaningless, but it may well be pointless, except in the bluntest of legal senses.
To deal with the question of pointlessness first: people who do not engage in sexual activities with others because they choose not to have sex, are quite common throughout humanity; they usually are called celibate. There are, I have no doubt, celibate people in all areas of human sexuality including, somewhat obviously, those who identify as asexual. There also are those who have celibacy forced upon them by virtue (sic) of circumstance or law. (This, of course, would make many who advocate for adult-child sexual relationships “virtuous” if they are not, or have ceased attempting to have sex with children, after all, they merely wish to do so, and for it to be legal.)
It is, therefore, with the above in mind, meaningless to draw a distinction between paedosexuals who do have sexual relations with children, and those who do not. And it is, to complete the circle, pointless, simply because people of all sexual persuasions choose to be celibate, for whatever reasons. That a particular sexuality is illegal, and presented as a great moral wrong, is not in and of itself a sufficient reason to draw this distinction and promote those who don’t as some form of paragon of virtue. Rather, doing this merely distracts from a serious and reasoned understanding of what appears to be normative human sexuality (in the same manner that homosexuality, bisexuality, heterosexuality are normative).
What VP advocates is a moral belief which is backed up by statutory law, and this moral view is presented in the title: virtuous paedophiles. This, however, is both misguided and one sided. Does anyone really believe that one’s virtues are lost if one has sex with someone?
There are a variety of virtues, and if one has and lives by these virtues (think of kindness, generosity, and whatever else you can think of as a virtue), and a person who has these virtues and lives by them is not going to lose them by virtue (sic) of an illicit sexual encounter, unless that person never possessed those virtues in the first place. On these grounds alone, a “virtuous paedophile” (virtuous bisexual, heterosexual, homosexual, virtuous human) could easily be a paedosexual actively involved in a sexual relationship with a child.
Actually, the use of the term “virtuous” to indicate and advocate “celibate/celibacy” really pisses me off, and I’m glad to have got this off my chest at last.
Penultimately, and in all seriousness, if the aim of the VP’s is as stated on your site, (i.e., “We want society to recognise that we are not monsters lurking behind bushes waiting to pounce on unsuspecting children, that many of us are good people who have a sexual attraction that we did not choose and cannot change, but are capable of controlling. Not only are paedophiles capable of being good people, many of us are good people.”) then it would behove you to argue for the sexual rights of children and paedosexuals, because…you all are in the same boat, and prison is just a touch and a complaint away.
Of course, Tom is correct when he says that “You could be an FBI agent specialised in psychological operations, trained to sew division among the enemy.” This would rather negate my criticisms, and anything you say.
Ok, and end to this long long comment at last, with one final observation: asexuality is commonly held to be a spectrum, in which some engage in romantic and physical relations, but have no interest in sex as such. You could look at a special issue of Psychology and Sexuality (http://www.tandfonline.com/toc/rpse20/4/2?nav=tocList) on this, and at the work of Ela Przybylo, in particular. In any event, it would be entirely possible for an asexual person to have romantic, but not sexual interests in children, to want to hug, love and kiss them, but nothing else. Where would such a person fit in the scheme of things? Is it acceptable to be an asexual paedophile? Or is that too far a stretch of the imagination?
>Tom: apologies for the massive comment, in advance.
Original thoughts such as these are difficult to condense without people wondering what on earth the writer is on about, or else getting the wrong end of the stick. So this is not too long for me: it is clear, and not repetitive.
Thank you. And Ill keep your comment in mind next time I think my poost is too long, and check for repetitiveness, and the occasional bit of boring.
I have read very little of Cantor’s work (his work doesn’t really address the issues I am interested in), so on reading this post I had a quick read of Non-offending Pedophiles (DOI 10.1007/s11930-016-0076-z 2016).
I am assuming, as this is a recent paper, that it presents his current view accurately.
What struck me, in fact, what astounded me, was that a gay (see the wikipedia article linked to in the post) man of his age could discuss paedophilia and it’s “stigma” with what appears to be the same conviction held buy those who rejected homosexuality on the grounds that it was a sexual disorder (paraphilia) before it was removed from the DSM and the majority of laws around the world. It seems to me that a similar paper could have been written (and many, in fact were written) about “non-offending homosexuals”, their treatment, and the stigma attached to homoeroticism. He also appears to take no notice of those who maintain that paedosexuality (and, more broadly, those with what he calls “pedohebephilic interests”) was of evolutionary importance, (can’t find the reference at the moment, unfortunately), or that paedosexual behaviour seems to be within the normal range of human sexuality.
I personally find homosexuality revolting (I don’t, but let’s run with it) and I encourage those homophobes who are out there to be vigilantes, for the sake of heteronormativity, to force all homosexuals to undergo treatment for their sexuality, and their vile flirting with each other in public. (etc.)
One paper doesn’t make an author’s entire view, but it can show areas of authorial blindness, and Cantor seems to have several such areas, which are quite large, including an unwillingness to even mention the causes of the stigma.
I’ve said it before, here and there, but it is worth saying again in this context, that not so many years ago I was an avid and convinced believer in the horrors of paedosexuality, and was quite happy to see all paedosexual “offenders” locked up forever. (Yes, I was that bad, sorry…) My view changed in 2008 when I started researching and thinking. If the article I’ve just read today is typical of Cantor’s view, then the best that can be said is that he is ignoring a shitload of evidence, available in his own field, which stands against his argument, and is taking a primarily moral and legal view without concerning himself with the probability that these moral views are wrong. (Finkelhor did much the same, from what I have read.) Just as wrong as those moral and legal views which would have seen him convicted and jailed not so very long ago.
Perhaps I am reading too much into one paper (I suspect I am not). I guess I’ll have to read more of his work, though perhaps not immediately as I am currently reading about asexuality, and trying to finish a couple of pieces of my own.
>Perhaps I am reading too much into one paper…
Don’t think so. I’d say you’ve got his number rather well.
That does not bode well, and saddens me somewhat. But my own previous ignorance may provide me with some optimism.
Hi, bjmuirhead! Many people have expressed incredulity at how homosexuals, particularly those who are older and personally experienced the hatred and misunderstandings once leveled at them, either cannot or refuse to acknowledge a parallel with how pedophilia and hebephilia are treated today and how what is today called the LGBT community were treated in the not too distant past, and display the same type of ignorant hostility towards Kind people that were once leveled at them. Shouldn’t they know better?
One unfortunate fact you will find upon researching human history and all civil emancipation movements of the past is how ready and willing groups of people are to ignore the past when it’s politically convenient and expedient for them to do so. Contrary to the cherished beliefs of some schools of liberalism, being an oppressed group at one point in history doesn’t make such people exempt at exhibiting the same type of ignorant and hateful behavior towards a different group once they achieve a large degree of emancipation, especially if showing such hatred and marginalization to another group helps their own group along politically.The LGBT community has some very good political reasons to ignore the obvious parallels mentioned above. When the LGBT community at large chose to pursue assimilation into the existing status quo in the mid-1980s, and abandoned the radical restructuring of society towards a more truly democratic and egalitarian form they once promoted, it became a requirement to not only abandon the principles they once held, but to vehemently repudiate them. This was even to the point of pretending the solidarity they once held with the boy-loving faction of their community never existed, and to turn on a minority of their own in order to preserve the improving fortunes of the more socially acceptable majority.
Cantor, Blanchard, and other gay researchers are among the ranks of this contemporary ideological and professionally assimilated version of the LGBT community. They believe their research must conform to their politics and the latter’s required moral stance in order to have any chance of being accepted by the scientific community, let alone the public at large. In their eyes, P.R. must trump principles and actual scientific validity.
I must admit that I expect more intellectual integrity and honesty than actually appears. Needless to say, even I fail my own standards occasionally. But I will continue to attempt to maintain and expect them, however often I disappoint myself, or am disappointed by others.
“I pointed out that at least 20-25% of “normal” men show significant sexual arousal to children in lab-based psychological tests.”
Tom this sentence is wrong and I guess this is the third time I try to correct this error here, somehow you don´t want to learn this thing. Much more “”normal” men show significant sexual arousal to children in lab-based psychological tests.” But: According to the mean value of five of such phallometric studies 24 % of “normal” men showed MORE (!) sexual arousal to children than to adults. An older version of this meta-analysis can be seen here: https://www.ipce.info/sites/ipce.info/files/biblio_attachments/every_fifth.pdf
> somehow you don´t want to learn this thing
I guess you are right, actually, Filip, and I understand your frustration. The problem is that I have difficulty believing that anyone else will “want to learn this thing”. It is just too counter-intuitive. When I was tackling James Cantor over his TV interview I simply had other fish to fry.
So you are the one who did that study. Excellent! And very important point for all of us as well as our detractors to understand. It frames the issue in a whole new way. I would use the term “equal or greater” as you do in the study. But be gentle with Tom. He’s been out fighting Goths and Visigoths and God knows what else.
j
If Martin Luther King Jr. had worried unduly about offending those in positions of power, blacks and whites would still be drinking from separate and unequal water fountains. We do not challenge people to think, and ultimately speak differently about things than what they have become accustomed to without irritating them. Real revolutionary efforts will ruffle feathers. It goes with the turf. The knowledge, patience and civilized restraint you bring to your discussions on Sexnet amaze me. Ruffled feathers may be a sign of some small success in your Promethean endeavour.
j
Thanks for the generous appreciation, Jim, although tweaking the tiger’s tail without being “worried unduly” is definitely not on my agenda! I wouldn’t be annoying James Cantor so much if I thought he might come after me with real firepower, like James Earl Ray!
Indeed, Jim. I remember many years ago on GirlChat, after a period of making my usual slew of controversial arguments had passed, a valued friend of mine from the community gave me the following admonishment: “Y’know, Diss, when you unleash your rants, you really bug some people.” My response was: “Yes, I know. And your point is?” Of course, that was a rhetorical query on my part, since I’m well aware of what his point was: he was among those whom my statements irritated, and he was suggesting that perhaps I should stop being so irritating. So, in my own inimitable manner, I explained to him that ruffling feathers (i.e., “bugging some people”) is an unavoidable consequence of telling people things they do not want to hear, and being firm and adamant about it.